Sunday, June 24, 2007
The pursuit of a "Higher" Happyness
When we are asked to write down what our ambition back in the 5th standard, most of us filled in the blank with Doctor, Astronaut, Engineer and many such stereotyped professions (Unlike my brother who wrote train engine driver!) now when you ask the question to us (as in people going to or at crossroads in life) we would say well an MBA graduate from IIMA, or PhD from Berkeley, a degree from Oxford, CA, Blah blah Actor blah.
What do I have to say?
What I am is not necessarily what I want to be. I am a film student with one film screened internationally. I have a great career option of joining films with enough and more resources that shall only be a dream unto others. I have a strong family background in the same field. I am also preparing for my CAT (which I seem pretty ok in) to join MICA by next June.
But what is it that I want to be?
In fact what is it that we really want to be?
When you place a track, you can say after an MBA, then work, then senior manager, then VP, then CEO. Else branch out start your own company. I can keep drawing and drawing the lines as vertical as I want to go. Sky also shall never be the limit.
But how many of us feel an empty space yet…
After an MS in engineering and a great job….then what?
After CEO, where should you go?
After marriage and kids, what more is there to expect from another?
Maybe the fact that most of us merely think of short term goals ( I mean a 10 year benchmark) is in fact a blessing in disguise. Its better to think what the immediate future holds than to worry of global warming will melt all the ice caps and sink us in a Water World. We anyway will be long gone before that, so why worry right?
I mean, does no one feel a sense of loss…of incompleteness…that there is nothing beyond the silver lining. Personally living this life for me feels like the Truman Show. Like someone is sitting and watching us all and we merely play out the parts that are etched to us. But how much can you deviate from the path chosen to you?
But then why should one deviate…why cant one merely enrich the path that one is presented with?
Should we not seek a higher meaning to life?
Or merely join the great hype of life and burn out in the end.
Just imagine, Mittal might be one of the richest Indians in the world, but how much of it does he stop to enjoy?
We run the rat race, but like they say we all are merely rats in the end.
Perhaps it’s not the fault of the people; it’s the necessity that society has created – the survival of the fittest.
I have been in a work environment too and I have loved every inch of it.
Then what is the meaning of all the rush and garble that follows when a person has to shine the brightest?
Is it better to shone brightly once in a billion years and then fade away…or is it better to just remain steady and watch the other stars run out of life then and now.
Should I be a spectator or the player?
Should I live or should I excel?
What is that I want to be?
Thursday, June 21, 2007
Leading Men
Hmm today a friend of mine said that I was a trouble maker… I am prone to create problems where ever I go. She said that in a capacity for I started a talk with a particular boy we knew and when it seemed weird I put an end to it. Now it seems quite unfortunately he has assumed that she asked me to stop the chit chat and has directed his irritation toward her (read he doesn’t reply to her anymore) sigh that was how the comment came into being. She just asked me this one question “could you not have left it way before in the first place?”
Should I have left it in the first place itself?
Well I have been accused of that in the past… that I lead men into believing that I like them , when what I merely do is be open and direct about a lot of issues where women skirt around delicately. I’ve never been much of a girly girl and men are plain idiots to think that if two and two click it becomes plenty!
Most of you who read this will agree that yes she should have quit what she did was merely leading that fellow on… ah yes another word that applies to me… leading men…
I’ve seen people saying that if a girl gets raped, it was her fault that she led a man to attempt something on her. It’s that girls should wear salwars in college so that they don’t provoke men. Girls wear burkas and cover themselves from head to toe to help man abstain from desire. Then those fuckers should have just moved into a desert without women. And considering the new age where homosexuality is gaining more and more prominence shouldn't men also be asked to do the same?
That’s the problem with men. Their easiest excuse is that men don’t have the self control and self abstinence that women exhibit. Well excuse me, but that’s just an eye wash, men are quite capable of several exorable feats. It’s just that they are too lazy to exercise their control. Tell me if men lack that much will power, how is it that they manage extreme physical feats which include brain and brawn, for example like mountaineering. Its not just strength, its extreme determination and will power. Please if they can scale Mount Everest how bad can handling your testosterone be?
Another thing is the “untouchable” time with a woman. In Hindu customs, when a woman is in her period, in homes where a temple is placed, she is asked to sit out, not touch any thing in the house for then everything in her path becomes “impure”. Not entering a temple is understandable, for if a woman bleeds in a temple it is impure (please not like she will mop up the temple someone else has to do it!) but then the untouchable part? Why are we treated like some leper when all we need is some rest? That is how it originally began. Women were asked to sit aside during that time because; she needs maximum rest to recuperate her loss of blood. Now rest is read as Impure. Strange are the ways of men.
Another interesting thing I have to write is what I saw at my friend’s home recently. I had been invited over for lunch and his mother was a wonderful woman, very kind, sweet and generous (I walked away with three boxes of sweets :D). She though kept complaining that her son never tells her what happens in college or at work. I was surprised and my friend just gave a wane smile.
Later I happened to learn that the similar fate is shared by all the women in that family. The multiple membered joint family patriarchs felt that with already too many problems being caused by many (male) voices, it would only create havoc if the women were also allowed a say in matters. In fact, these men make sure that when they marry, they marry from families where women are taught that the husband’s word is the bible.
No people, I’m not trying to be a feminist here. But it irks me to see that certain basic rights are being deprived just so we are a woman. I agree that equal opportunities are not accomodatable in certain situations. But seriously how bad can a woman’s say be. Don’t push us down… the more you keep us suppressed, the more we come out to swallow you. So give us an equal footing wherever possible.
Dear Government: We still look forward to the 33 %
And please not all of us are bad drivers!
Should I have left it in the first place itself?
Well I have been accused of that in the past… that I lead men into believing that I like them , when what I merely do is be open and direct about a lot of issues where women skirt around delicately. I’ve never been much of a girly girl and men are plain idiots to think that if two and two click it becomes plenty!
Most of you who read this will agree that yes she should have quit what she did was merely leading that fellow on… ah yes another word that applies to me… leading men…
I’ve seen people saying that if a girl gets raped, it was her fault that she led a man to attempt something on her. It’s that girls should wear salwars in college so that they don’t provoke men. Girls wear burkas and cover themselves from head to toe to help man abstain from desire. Then those fuckers should have just moved into a desert without women. And considering the new age where homosexuality is gaining more and more prominence shouldn't men also be asked to do the same?
That’s the problem with men. Their easiest excuse is that men don’t have the self control and self abstinence that women exhibit. Well excuse me, but that’s just an eye wash, men are quite capable of several exorable feats. It’s just that they are too lazy to exercise their control. Tell me if men lack that much will power, how is it that they manage extreme physical feats which include brain and brawn, for example like mountaineering. Its not just strength, its extreme determination and will power. Please if they can scale Mount Everest how bad can handling your testosterone be?
Another thing is the “untouchable” time with a woman. In Hindu customs, when a woman is in her period, in homes where a temple is placed, she is asked to sit out, not touch any thing in the house for then everything in her path becomes “impure”. Not entering a temple is understandable, for if a woman bleeds in a temple it is impure (please not like she will mop up the temple someone else has to do it!) but then the untouchable part? Why are we treated like some leper when all we need is some rest? That is how it originally began. Women were asked to sit aside during that time because; she needs maximum rest to recuperate her loss of blood. Now rest is read as Impure. Strange are the ways of men.
Another interesting thing I have to write is what I saw at my friend’s home recently. I had been invited over for lunch and his mother was a wonderful woman, very kind, sweet and generous (I walked away with three boxes of sweets :D). She though kept complaining that her son never tells her what happens in college or at work. I was surprised and my friend just gave a wane smile.
Later I happened to learn that the similar fate is shared by all the women in that family. The multiple membered joint family patriarchs felt that with already too many problems being caused by many (male) voices, it would only create havoc if the women were also allowed a say in matters. In fact, these men make sure that when they marry, they marry from families where women are taught that the husband’s word is the bible.
No people, I’m not trying to be a feminist here. But it irks me to see that certain basic rights are being deprived just so we are a woman. I agree that equal opportunities are not accomodatable in certain situations. But seriously how bad can a woman’s say be. Don’t push us down… the more you keep us suppressed, the more we come out to swallow you. So give us an equal footing wherever possible.
Dear Government: We still look forward to the 33 %
And please not all of us are bad drivers!
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